Men Who Style: 15 Steps to Sharpen Your Swagger

You and your guy buds decided to go out on a Saturday night to unwind and hopefully, meet new girls. You bought new shirts and pants the night before to make sure you look your best. You even took a bath before you left, used your favorite cologne and even sprinkling a few drops of pheromones on those trigger areas to boost your chances even more. You are probably thinking this must be your lucky night. You and your friends have met a couple of good-looking women who agreed to stay with you at your table.

Then a guy who dresses the same way as you do walked in the door, and the women went crazy. Apparently, this dude had far more swag than you and your friends, whatever that means. Swag means “secretly we are gay.” Over the years, it became a term that describes one’s ability to represent themselves, and be able to captivate other people. Having that swag means having an attitude that will make everything you do, wear and say look cool. Apparently, it’s not just about wearing the hippest clothes or owning the latest in fashion. Think about Adam Levine and Cristiano Ronaldo and you may get the picture. To guide you better, here are ways to help you get that swagger – and attract the girl of your dreams.

1. Update Your Wardrobe

When you walk in a room full of strangers, the first thing they will notice is your physical appearance. As ridiculous as it sounds, it helps to invest in a few good pieces of clothing. You don’t have to buy expensive clothes and shoes to make you look good. Most of the time, it all boils down to comfort. Once you look good and feel comfortable with what you are wearing, you tend to feel good, as well. Don’t forget to buy classic pieces that you will need in your everyday life,such as a well-fitting suit and a classic wool sweater.

2. Adopt The Right Body Language

Aside from what you wear, your body language also matters in defining your swag level. As much as possible, stand tall, keep your head up high and avoid looking down at the ground. Don’t slouch, because it decreases your swag level exponentially. Keep your arms on your sides and use them for gestures. Never cross them over your chest, because it seems you are unsure of yourself and not willing to welcome other people. More importantly, smile. It’s your best asset. Eye contact pays a lot, too.

3. Pay Attention To Your Shoes

Wearing the right clothes is important in sharpening your swagger; however, it doesn’t end there. You need to ensure that you are wearing the right shoes – and that means letting go of your favorite worn out sneakers for some occasions. In case you are feeling bold, you could still wear your favorite sneakers, even while you are dressed up. Just make sure they are new and clean.

4. Say Goodbye To All Those Bad Habits

Are you always late for work? Are you having a hard time kicking the butts? Do you always worry, even if there is nothing to worry about? Are you biting your nails most of the time, to the point where you don’t need to use a nail cutter? Every person has their own set of bad habits. However, this doesn’t mean it’s okay. It takes 21 days to form good habits. Start now and get that swagger back.

5. Improve Yourself

Here’s a simple activity for you. Look at your pictures from 10 years ago. Now, look at your pictures now. What changed? Aside from your physical appearance, how different are you now compared to 10 years ago? What did you do to improve yourself? Swag is not just about physical appearance. It is also about making constant effort to improve yourself and make you a more confident and happier person. You may not see the difference now, but any self-improvement boosts your swag levels.

6. Hit The Gym

Going to the gym and exercising in general have tons of benefits. Aside from getting rid of unwanted pounds, it helps you build muscles, makes you lose weight and keeps you healthy in general. More importantly, it makes you look and feel better about yourself, which could affect your overall aura and disposition. Visit the gym near you or enroll in sports you love the most. If you want something cheaper, YouTube has tons of exercise videos made more accessible to you.

7. Stop The Hate

Having swag makes you think you are cooler than the rest of the crowd. There are minions vying for your attention and willing to do whatever it takes to be like you. Although there are lots of people who look up to you, this doesn’t mean you could do put them down and make them feel they don’t have even close to what you have. To sharpen your swagger, you have to be friends with everyone. After all, boosting yourself by putting people them shows them you are insecure, not cool.

8. Set Concrete Goals

When you were younger, you are always asked to write what you wanted to be when you grew up. How are those goals? Were you able to attain at least one on your, ‘When I Grow Up” list? Setting goals, whether short term or long term ones, serves as your guide towards self-satisfaction and self-fulfillment. It keeps you motivated because it focuses your eyes on the prize. This makes you hardworking, determined and focus – qualities women are [adsanity id=”49837″ align=”aligncenter” /]looking for in men.

9. Be Independent

To boost your true swag, you have to be comfortable with or without people around you. In other words, you have to be independent. This means instead of doing what everyone else is doing because you don’t want to be left behind; you are comfortable with doing your own thing. Spending time with friends is okay. However, this doesn’t mean you should rely on them at all times. You still have to develop your own set of goals, thoughts, interests, beliefs and dreams, with no one telling you what to do.

10. Surround Yourself With People Who Make You Feel Better

Being on the popular side has many perks. However, don’t stick with the popular people just because you want people to notice you. Believe it or not, they don’t even know what real swag means. Rather, hang out with people who know what being a swag means by heart. You will be able to get tips from them, plus tricks on how you could give your swag a boost. In other words, choose your friends wisely and stay away from those who say nothing but bad things about people.

11. Continuously Inspire Yourself

Who is your hero? It could be the fireman in your town, your teacher, your achiever classmate or even your own father. Whoever you look up to and it doesn’t matter if they are famous or not, get yourself inspired by your role models. Follow their lead and look for something you could use to inspire yourself to become a better person.

12. Be Real

Having other people as an inspiration is a good thing. However, problems arise when you start changing yourself to be exactly like your role model. Remember, imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. Therefore, don’t change who you are just because people think that this is cool, or that is what other people think you should do.Don’t be ashamed of who you are. At the same time, stop caring about what other people think and embrace being yourself.

13. Differentiate Yourself From Others

In the world where social media is the new meeting place and posting on Instagram is part of the daily routine, you can’t help but compare yourself with other people. Admit it. There are instances where you can’t help but “copy” or imitate other people who are more popular than you are. Unfortunately, you are losing your swag – and it’s not a good thing. Keep in mind that individuality distinguishes you from other people. It’s okay to look for inspiration, but make sure to put your own personality in everything you do.

14. Be More Confident

Who would you go for – someone who is beautiful, but doesn’t feel confident about herself or someone who’s not a 10 in terms of looks, but exudes good amount of confidence in her body? Say you will go for the pretty girl; however, you still can’t help but notice the confident one. The same concept can be applied to you. Your confidence level plays an important role on how people see your swag. However, make sure when to draw the line. Confidence and arrogance have a thin line between them; it might be difficult to distinguish which is which.

15. Remember Your True Self

Perhaps, someone told you, “It’s not the shoes the man is wearing that make the man. It’s the man who’s wearing the shoes.” Regardless of what and who you are wearing, the car you drive, your master’s degree from an Ivy League school, and your expensive house in Hamptons, at the end of the day, it all boils down to who you really are. Take away everything and you are left with nothing but yourself. Who you are as a person and your traits and state of being are the best ways to sharpen your swag. Are you ready to get that swag on? With these steps, you’ll be well on your way to feeling and exuding more confidence and positivity.